Finding Peace Amidst Fear

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We have all been living with a lot of anxiety and uncertainty for the past few weeks — and the weeks are quickly turning into months.

It is natural to look for comfort, relief, something to cheer us up. This is absolutely normal and valid but the truth is — and we see this writ large — we are not in control of the things that scare us. We can’t elude or avoid the difficult situations we face. And trying to ignore or bury our feelings just creates more anxiety.

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The wonderful Buddhist nun and teacher Pema Chodron offers another approach to finding peace amidst fear — a meditation called tonglen. She shares a talk about how to practice tonglen on her website.

Tonglen practice is a method for connecting with suffering – our own and that which is all around us, everywhere we go. It is a method for overcoming our fear of suffering and for dissolving the tightness of our hearts. Primarily, it is a method for awakening the compassion that is inherent in all of us. This talk by Pema Chödrön consists of the basic tonglen instructions and guided tonglen practice.

This talk is well worth listening too, even if you don’t have time or interest in a new meditation practice. She offers a straightforward shift in perspective — that instead of running from our fears, we can turn towards them with openness. When you do this, she explains, the fear(s) lose control. They can’t push you around in the same way.

Chodron offers a refreshingly realistic, humble, undramatic way to change our mindset and find another way to walk this path before us.

 

The Anjali Mudra

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What is the Anjali Mudra?

At the end of every class we put our hands together to say Namaste. That gesture is the Anjali mudra. The word mudra is Sanskrit for seal, mark or gesture.

Mudra is used in ceremonies and dance, and frequently shown in sculpture and painting. In statues of Buddha, for example, the characteristic hand positions are different mudra.

According to Encyclopaedia Britannica a “mudra acts as a kind of visual ‘seal,’ affirming a mystical or magical vow or utterance, such as a supplication to ward off evil. A mudra often accompanies the spiritual utterance known as the mantra.”

Mudras and mantras are a key part of the practice of yoga. They connect us to the spiritual traditions of yoga, affirm our dedication, and enhance our energies.

The Anjali mudra is special because joining the palms connects the left and right sides of our brain. It promotes unity — which is the goal of yoga — and expresses respect for those around us. Bringing our hands to our heart is an acknowledgment of our spiritual and emotional core, and our willingness to open and connect to others.

This holiday season, let’s practice Anjali mudra mindfully. Let’s connect our brains, hearts and spirits to the benefit of ourselves and those around us.

Read more: Namaste, The Gift of Metta, and Om Mani Padme Hum Mantra

When Not To Do Yoga

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Yoga is amazing so, the more the better, right?

Yes. Except when it’s not. Sometimes, we don’t need to do yoga. Sometimes, we need to do something different entirely, or need to do a different kind of yoga.

I got to thinking about this reading a post called “Yoga poses I simply can’t do, and what I do instead“. The point of the article is simple: not everyone has the same body so we can’t all do the same yoga poses in the same way.

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Some of us need to modify postures a little, or a lot. Or substitute for another pose. Or just park on the mat and take a breather in child’s pose. None of us should ever feel bad about this, or like we’re doing it wrong.

This applies beyond the studio, too.

There are times when, for our own well-being, we shouldn’t do yoga. The whole point of yoga is to learn to flow with our bodies, ourselves, and our circumstances. If we do it in the wrong situations, or use it to mask feelings that need to be addressed, we muddy its purpose and create an unhealthy energy in our practice.

When should we not do yoga?

• When we are under-nourished.
• When we are exhausted.
• When we have an urgent responsibility.
• If we are using it to block or avoid painful emotions.
• If we are using it to feel superior or powerful.
• If we are using it to punish ourselves.
• If we are chasing an unrealistic body image.

In these emotional states, we need to be honest with ourselves and brave enough to address the real issues. Yoga is a beautiful, healing, energising tool to help us through life. If we try to make it a shield or a weapon against the things we find difficult or scary, we distort its meaning and our relationship to it.

The ethos of yoga is unity and compassion, with starts with ourselves. We should always practice in a spirit of wellness and harmony, not anxiety or evasion.

Share you thoughts on when not to do yoga, in the comments.

 

3 Ways to Eliminate Comparison

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Blogging about yoga for a quiet mind got me thinking about the things that make our minds unquiet. All kinds of beliefs, assumptions, fears and insecurities keep us on edge, waiting for something to change before we can be at peace.

Comparison is one of the big underlying reasons we feel these emotions. It’s a burly taproot, nourishing the small, leafy anxieties of daily life.

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From the moment we’re born people compare us – are we cuter, happier, quicker to walk or talk than other babies?

When we go to school, our achievements are compared to others. Whatever we do, from sport to dating, is a basis for comparison. Instead of discovering our intrinsic worth, we are taught our value lies in out-doing someone else.

Comparison is a happiness killer. It dulls our self-confidence and stops us from having whole-hearted relationships. It is a tough habit to break but these three steps can help eliminate comparisons and open you to a richer, happier life.

Tune into the soundtrack in your head

The first thing you have to do to stop comparison is to become aware of what you’re doing. We all have a running mental soundtrack. We are so used to constantly judging other people, and ourselves, that it is almost reflexive. If a colleague gets a promotion, your first impulse might be to feel envious, or insecure that you weren’t chosen. When you consciously examine this thought, you realise that actually they are going to have a lot more work, and that they have totally different experience. Their status is not a reflection on you.

Cultivate gratitude

Someone is always better off than you, and someone is always worse off. Comparison keeps us tugging back and forth between envy and pride, if we let it. Gratitude helps us take a different course. When we make a conscious decision to think about and appreciate the blessings we have – health, friends, hobbies, food, shelter, and so much more – we don’t feel the need to compare ourselves to others. We may not have everything, but we have an abundance.

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Practice non-judgmental yoga

Yoga can easily lure us into comparing our practice, postures or bodies with others. This makes it a great opportunity to work on new ways of thinking. To practice non-judgmental yoga, ground yourself in the breath. Focus your whole energy on the movement within your own body. Observe the way your chest rises and falls, the connection of muscles and bones. If you need to, slow down from your regular pace to really concentrate. Gradually, with time, you will find it easier to sink into your own practice instead of getting lured into comparison.

Read more: Body Image Boost, How to Want What You’ve Got

Yoga = CommUnity

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Yoga means unity. Every practice is individual but it shouldn’t be solitary. Part of growing as a yogi is extending the benefits we experience to others, in whatever form possible.

I recently spent an inspiring day volunteering at Imad’s Syrian Kitchen, participating in a fundraiser for Help Refugees.

Imad is a wonderful spirit, a refugee himself who is using his skills as a chef and restauranteur to aid others who are struggling to reach safety and rebuild their lives.

It reminded me how closely linked we are as humans. We can’t ignore what’s happening around us, or the needs of others, because we are all connected. We live here together, on this planet, in this moment. We have a daily opportunity to make the world a better place by how we choose to relate.

By participating in our community, we embody the true meaning of yoga. The inward unity of mind-body-spirit that we seek in the studio becomes woven into the fabric of our relationships with others. It truly makes a difference.

Even if you don’t have time to volunteer, there are lots of ways to engage with your community. It might be as simple as helping a neighbour, making a donation or signing a petition to support a good cause. Whatever you can do, don’t wait. Do it!

More about Help Refugees

Help Refugees started as nothing more than a hashtag in August 2015. A group of friends wanted to raise and fill a van full of donations to take down to Calais. Within a week, we had raised . We were soon receiving 7,000 items every day.

Fast forward three years, and we have helped over 722,500 people, managed over 25,000 volunteers, and we support more 80 projects across Europe and the Middle East. We have established a fieldwork first, networked approach to giving aid, establishing local networks and working with local partners to deliver projects.

Click here to learn more and get involved!

The Gift of Metta

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Just a short post to share the gift of metta, which means loving kindness.

This beautiful meditation cultivates loving kindness for ourselves, our loved ones, those who we struggle to love, and all living beings. Do it today, do it every day… Namaste.

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There are many versions of the meditation. This is from 5809Yoga.com

This prayer traditionally is repeated four times:

• First to oneself
• Then to someone it is so easy to love
• Next to someone who needs a little more love
• Lastly, to all beings everywhere

Metta Meditation

Say first to yourself:
May I feel protected and safe.
May my heart remain open.
May I awaken to the light of my true nature.
May I be healed, and be a source of healing for the world.
Thinking of someone it is so easy to love.
Draw this person close to your heart & your mind and send them metta:
May you feel protected and safe.
May your heart remain open.
May you awaken to the light of your true nature.
May you be healed, and be a source of healing for the world.
Next, thinking of someone who needs a little more love.
Draw this person close to your heart & your mind. Send this person metta:
May you feel protected and safe.
May your heart remain open.
May you awaken to the light of your true nature.
May you be healed, and be a source of healing for the world.
Lastly, to all beings everywhere:
May we feel protected and safe.
May our hearts remain open.
May we awaken to the light of our true nature.
May we be healed, and be a source of healing for the world.

Wishing you a joyous Christmas, Hanukkah, Winter Solstice or whatever you observe!

Make This Your Lucky Day

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Friday the 13th is traditionally bad luck, which makes today the perfect time to reflect on what “luck” means — and how we can make today (and every day) our “lucky day”.

Be lucky

Luck implies that life is something that happens to us. Depending on the era and culture, people have believed that God, the Gods, fate, or some other force is responsible for handing out good and bad events.

Yoga teaches us about karma — that what we experience is a response to what do. Our actions are the root from which karma grows. They determine our “luck”.

Here are five ways to make today your lucky day.

Express love

Take the time today to tell your loved ones that you love them. Sure, they know you love them, but actually saying the words, expressing them out loud, will is an affirmation that will lift them up — and you.

Let one thing go

We all have little things that drive us crazy — the weather, a co-worker, our commute. Today, think of one of these things and make a conscious decision to let it go. Just brush it off, ignore it, don’t give it your mental energy. You’ll be surprised how free you feel.

Do a headstand

Inversions literally let us look at the world from a new angle. Headstands refresh and revitalise our mind and body and they’re just plain fun.

Give

We are exceptionally blessed in our material circumstances, which makes us an exception in the world. Take an opportunity today to share your abundance. This might mean a financial donation, but it could equally be a gift of time, attention, or expertise.

Set your intention

Our attitudes and actions are guided by our intentions. If we want to move through life in health, peace, and happiness, we need to make a conscious decision to value those things (and the actions that bring us closer to them). Today, take some time to think about what matters to you — then set your intention to guide you.

How do you bring luck into your life? Share your thoughts in the comments!

 

“Always Something Left to Love”

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One important thing about yoga is it helps us open up emotionally. Regular practice amplifies our capacity for love and compassion. To me, practicing yoga is an important part of learning to be present and loving in all my relationships.

So when a friend shared this beautiful passage with me, I had to share it with you. The following is a conversation from the famous play A Raisin in the Sun by the great Black American playwright Lorraine Hansberry. The dialogue takes place between daughter Beneatha and her Mama. They are talking about their brother/son Walter, who has just lost the family’s fortune. Mama’s wisdom is something we should all keep with us.

Beneatha: Love him? There is nothing left to love.

Mama: There is always something left to love. And if you ain’t learned that, you ain’t learned nothing. Have you cried for that boy today? I don’t mean for yourself and for the family ’cause we lost the money. I mean for him: what he been through and what it done to him. Child, when do you think is the time to love somebody the most? When they done good and  made things easy for everybody? Well then, you ain’t through learning — because that ain’t the time at all. It’s when he’s at his lowest and can’t believe in hisself ’cause the world done whipped him so! When you starts measuring somebody, measure him right, child, measure him right. Make sure you done taken into account what hills and valleys he come through before he got to wherever he is.

What are your favourite quotes about love?

Dharma Mittra Wisdom

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Some of my most profound experiences in yoga have been training with Sri Dharma Mittra. His wisdom, grace, insight and devotion to the practice are a shining inspiration.

Following the Dharma Yoga Center on Twitter is a great way to get a regular dose of his wise words. Here are some of my favourite quotes from recent weeks.

“Before you practice, always offer thanks to whomever you believe in and invite all beings everywhere to enjoy the practice through your body, mind and senses.”

“When you are quiet, you see everything with love.”

“Don’t be attached, not even to your practice! Attachment is the third cause of pain and suffering.”

“Observe the thoughts. Let them rise and fade away. They are a result of your deeds from the past.”

 

“Remember always that the Real Teacher is right there in you. The Real Teacher is within your own heart.”

“It’s the body and mind that pass through experience. Don’t lose your control. Yogis stand supreme whether dealing with something pleasant or unpleasant.”

“It´s only in a human body that you can make spiritual progress. This body, this very life you have, it’s so precious. Think about it.”

Share a favourite quote or message of inspiration in the comments!

 

Best of the Year: Yoga Books

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A great yoga book can inspire and strengthen your practice. After comparing a number of “best of 2017” books articles I picked out four that appeared on multiple  lists and have gotten great reader reviews across the board. Read on!

The Heart of Yoga by T. K. V. Desikachar

“This is hands down one of the must-have books for anyone making a deep move into the field of Yoga. This is a contemporary classic by a world-renowned teacher, and beautifully captures the essence of Yoga. It is not just a step to step guide to learn Yoga, but it helps you understand it in the true sense. It outlines a step-by-step sequence to develop a complete practice according to Viniyoga (the type of yoga which adapts to the needs of the Yogi).” for more read the full review here

Light on Yoga B. K. S. Iyengar

“If you are looking for a completely definitive guide to Yoga and wish to understand the deeper philosophy behind it as well (and not just the postures), this bible of modern yoga book is just the right pick for you. It has vivid details of all the postures and various breathing exercises (along with complete illustrations) to give you a truly wonderful experience of learning Yoga.” for more read the full review here

The Yoga Bible by Christine Brown

“This book is the #1 Best Seller in its genre on Amazon for a reason. As the name suggests in a very interesting way, this book is indeed the Bible of Yoga, if one puts it that way. It is one of the most comprehensive illustrated step-by-step guides available out there on Yoga postured. It has more than 150 different yogic postures for the reader to master along with advice on when to alter postures and which postures to try. It has a little something for everybody, from beginners to experts.” for more read the full review here

Every Body Yoga by Jessamyn Stanley

“This is the inspirational story of someone who struggled to fit into the classic image of a yoga practitioner but was resilient and determined, so much so that she truly is inspiration in encouraging others to persevere and have a go. The book is part memoir about the author’s experiences and also celebrates some of her achievements, gives background information on the different types of yoga and equipment options but it is also a fun guide to basic yoga poses.

One of the best bits about the poses is that they aren’t demonstrated by the stereotypical skinny, flexible blonde but by all shapes and sizes of people. The instructions are clear and easy to follow, the photos motivating” for more read the full review here

Recommend your favourite yoga book in the comments!