I’ve been thinking a lot lately about how our minds guide us, and the ways they can open new vistas, or get us stuck in a rut.
We are, after all, creatures of habit — both physical and mental. We are brought up with certain values and beliefs and, unless we are conscious of them, we can go through our whole life without ever checking whether they are helpful or harmful.
The path to true happiness?
One incredibly common belief is that we have to earn the right To Be… to be happy, to be loved, to be successful, to be content, to be satisfied with our lives.
Our culture is predicated on always needing more. This can be material, but it can also be mental and spiritual. We fall into the rut of thinking, “once I have the perfect relationship, I can be happy,” or “once I get this promotion, I will have achieved something,” or “once I really learn to meditate, I’ll be at peace.”
Unfortunately, there is always another there to reach. We can spend our whole life setting up goals then discovering, when we reach them, that there is still one more thing… and trust me, there is ALWAYS one more thing.
It’s not a destination
So we can spend our whole life, running along this road, not feeling prepared or confident or at peace. Or, we can slow down and reconsider our relationship to this never-ending journey.
Sure, there are always going to be goals, but should we allow them to dictate our state of well-being and personal satisfaction? No.
Life is short. We will never achieve it all. What we can do, is learn to appreciate the things we have right now. In the moment.
Take stock, then… relax
Next time you catch yourself getting into this hurry-ahead mindset, pause and take stock. Your goal is important, sure. But so is right now.
- You are already a valuable human being.
- You already deserve mental, physical and spiritual wellness.
- You already have the tools you need to achieve your objectives.
- You already have the capacity to learn and grow.
Give yourself permission to be yourself, here and now, and pursue your dreams with joy, instead of self-judgment.
Read more: A Short Guide to Mindfulness, Mental and Emotional Harmony